Eternal hangover of a disastrous heartbreak.

Through the columns of my journal entries, I picked up songs that I wrote while witnessing what I call my plight. Be it from the rejection of being incapable to have something or a fantasy left unfulfilled. The scars of heartbreak make you believe in the concept of hell. You daydream about what all could have happened instead. Often you sink into the corners of the self-created territory where things feel safe for a while. You let your thoughts run wild and free.

You lose yourself in the process

Letting yourself believe things makes you a manic and that’s when you start to get into the eternal hangover of a disastrous heartbreak. You lose your productivity to the hands of overthinking. The zeal and jolly is gone, enter the lazy couch potato. There’s nothing wrong with letting yourself feel things but there’s everything wrong with feelings controlling you. You procrastinate, you forget tasks, you are always irritated and constantly under guilt-ridden anxiety.

Looping into previous patterns

The persistent  Déjà vu of ending up in situations that make you lose faith. Connect the dots now and realize that it’s you. It is you who is letting all this happen and none of this has to do with how the stars aligned when you were born. Stop blaming the person, the situation, and everything which was never under your control and instead try to introspect the cure. The cure is YOU.

To every boy who said no and all the interviews which never went well. Then some colleges rejected me. To my love which didn’t have luck. I don’t mind at all. I progressed through it all. The hangover of heartbreak soon morphed into the sparks of a firework. The firework that is shining distant from it all.

How to move on when all you think is the same thing?

Learn to master over your mind, the muscle that is the most powerful. When you want to get stronger biceps, you train it right? Similarly, if you exercise your mind by subjecting it to positive thoughts then only you can have the courage to move over the past. Treat it like your garden and remove all the weeds. Make the most of your mind by making it envision a future where you are realizing your goals. Always feed it with positivity and see how your life changes. After all, life is like a radio, the frequency you tune it in, the channel it gets connected to.

My first Heartbreak

Coming back to the ballads I wrote when I had my first heartbreak. I was going through them recently and I found something common in all. I used to glorify my plight, whatever happened I was living it again and again. Living in the past by writing about it, again and again, made me not move on easily. As my mind was already comfortable in the past, it could never move on. Only when I got occupied with my work I could move on. I would get less time to think about what happened and it helped me out somehow. So stop feeding your mind with junk, get a hold on healthy thoughts.

Exercises to help you out

Start with the age-old technique of mastering focus. Take anything be it your watch or a flower or a burning candle. Get yourself some calm space and try to look at your object of attention. Immediately there would be many thoughts flowing down your mind. Try to block them and for a moment try to only focus on the object in front of you. Initially, you wouldn’t be able to sit for long periods but if you practice it more you may be able to master it. This will help your mind to block all the unnecessary thoughts easily.

Spend time with yourself

All these years of evolution and still humans aren’t capable enough to have a good time with themselves. Learn to make the most of it. Instead of feeling alone, be your own company. Take yourself out, give yourself a makeover, talk good things about you in front of a mirror, and much more. Learn to be your date. If you fall in love with yourself then there would be nothing holding you back. Always remember situations are temporary but YOU are permanent.

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